Titus 1:9: “He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose.”
I had the privilege of watching two very different forms of leadership lately. Both were for the same event but presented in completely opposite ways. One had a way of drawing the audience into the experience while encouraging participation that was comfortable and natural. The other type tried to force certain forms and styles out of the audience that weren’t natural or comfortable to all in attendance. Instead of drawing the group of people together, it appeared to almost divide them. Now, I’m sure that the second scenario I described works well in certain situations, but in the audience that I attended, it was not received positively.
That got me thinking…Being a great leader is a gift. I don’t consider myself a very effective one. If I were to describe myself, I’m happy to be a follower 99% of the time (which is why I’m very choosy about who I pick to follow). However, when I signed on to the role of mom, I essentially became a leader, whether I wanted to or not. And therefore, I have a choice of which kind of leader I’m going to be.
I want to be the first kind of leader described. I want to encourage my children to follow my example while still being free to express themselves in their own, unique ways. There are certain rules that are unbending, but they are welcome to bring their own “flare” to our family; in fact, it’s quite welcome and could be quite refreshing. I want to be someone who brings out the best in people, who takes a family of different personalities and tastes and opinions and somehow has the ability to blend them all together so that pure harmony is heard (the majority of the time at least).
I realize that’s a pretty big bucket list. If I work on just a few things like patience, having a sense of humor, accepting and loving my family for who they are, not trying to fit anyone into a certain mold, and blending all our differences into a song that is uniquely “us”, imagine the leader I will be.
As the new school year starts this week for Michigan, I want to model the correct kind of leadership in our home. Maybe that will rub off on my kids and they will in turn positively influence those around them, instead of be willing to follow anyone, anywhere.
That’s my goal – what leadership traits are you wanting to bring to your family? Because, as the mother (or father) of your household, that’s exactly what you are!