“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10 (NIV).
Do you ever wish you could change things in your life? A different career, more children, volunteer in the community, work outside/inside the home full time or part time?
I learned as a young adult I do much better when I get to focus on one thing at a time. I can multitask really well within that area, but give me too many different jobs and I tend to stress out. When I was newly married, without children, I worked outside the home and managed to keep on top of my responsibilities. Even after our first child, I continued to cope well. After our second child arrived, though, I talked with my husband and we decided it would be much better for our family if I could contribute to the household income from inside the house versus outside the home. That’s when I chose to get relicensed for daycare and I got paid to be a mom to multiple children, something I relished. I got a full night’s sleep but had cute little ones all day. One more child and a job change later, I realized again the truth that I function much better focusing on motherhood or a career rather than trying to juggle both. That used to discourage me because I felt like I did a lousy job at both jobs: Motherhood and my career.
I was reading a great devotional, There’s a Green Plastic Monkey in my Purse by Jessie Clemence, and she was telling all these truly inspiring stories about women who homeschool, have more children than I, cook organically, grow their own garden, etc. and do it with a smile. I thought, That’s who I want to be. I want to be a stay-at-home mom, make all our food from scratch…
At first I was discouraged I wasn’t doing all I thought I should be, but then God again lovingly, reminded me that I am exactly where He wants me to be. God is the God of the Universe which means He owns everything: Jobs, finances, children, possessions, etc. If God truly wanted me to be a stay-at-home mom, He could think the thought and our finances would be such that I could be. However, He doesn’t work that way. Maybe He has something to teach me by having me juggle a career and motherhood. Maybe He wants to teach my children more independence. (As I wrote in a previous blog, if I was a stay-at-home mom with nothing else to do, my children would be lazy and spoiled because I would do everything for them. By working and having other responsibilities, they are required to pitch in to help make our household run smoothly and for the record, they do a great job at it.)
The point isn’t that I know the why behind where I am; the point is I can trust that God has me right where He wants me. I can take that thought one step further. Not only can I trust God for where I am now, but I can trust God that if I continue to obey His guidelines and not run off and do something foolish that I will regret later (like charge $10,000 on a credit card “just because”), then God will guide me to where He wants me in the future. And, that, my friends, changed my perspective. I realized I am right where I belong – juggling a career and motherhood, going a little crazy at times, but confident that God is teaching me and my family what He wants us to learn. And I can rest in that peace even while multitasking.
Copyright 2013: Cheri Swalwell